I've been reflecting quite a lot these last few days. If any of you have me on Twitter, I'm sure you would have seen my mini Twitter rant (lol). It's been more than a year since I graduated from undergrad, and it's finally clear who I'll be seeing around when I'm 50. It's easy to fall out of touch with friends, especially when some of them are transitioning into new roles and new stages of their life. A change in your schedule and/or proximity to the other person probably doesn't help the situation either. But, what I've learned since graduating is that there will be a select few who will always break through the bullshit and find a way to stay connected. Quite honestly, with the amount of technology in our lives, there really is no excuse. It's not like we need to write hand written letters to stay in touch. Even a five minute Face time call will do. Yet, most of us do not prioritize each other in our lives to do even that. It's hard, but it can be done if you both people really want to.
I'm guilty of putting people in the back burner. When life hits you in the face, it's easy to push some of your commitments aside until you're feeling up to it. But, the difference is ... some people, regardless of how present you are, take the time to check in with you. I remember back in November during my first practicum, I was so disconnected from the things happening around me. I was so focused on making it through that school term, I hardly made plans to see anyone. But, the people who sent me messages regardless of my presence are the ones who I'll want to see around when I'm 50. Whenever I see friends who are supposedly "too busy" find time for others, I instantly begin thinking "should I be messaging this person more", "should I be more persistent with plans" but it's a two-way street. I can be persistent, but it's whether or not the other person is willing to make me a priority too.
It's easy to sit and think about all the people who have disappeared on you or fail to make you a priority. At times, unintentionally, I'm sure I've done that to others. But, I think it's important to stop and recognize the people who are always there without fail. The people who put up with your lack of messages in a group convo, but still take the time to include you in every group message that follows. I'm lucky that I have a group of sister.friends who are still so persistent with making plans even when 98% of them fail, lol! You know who you are. I'm thankful for a lot, but you're all at the top. I'll always be grateful for your presence Xx
A 24 year old Canadian living (& teaching) in Shenzhen, China.